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Full Gender Equality: What Possibilities? The arguments put forward in this paper analyse the issue of gender equality in a relationship between a man and a woman. Without a big change in men's attitudes full equality relationships will not be possible. If men dominate in families, men will dominate in the society in general. We are not only talking about equality in the labour market, but even in the private sphere. We have to negotiate with equality all the time. Full Equality is not only possible but it has several advantages. Equality In our traditional families and relationships between man and women, men dominate. In this type of relationship, there is equity between the male and female, rather than equality. Today, most probable because of liberal feminism, the female has got an equal standing in society as the male has. From this point forward, the traditional system has changed into a modern and liberal one. In these times, one finds that it is no longer true that the male is the one to make plans for the female. This type of relationship is evolutionary. Despite the progress and education, the number of girls who give birth to babies before marriage has always continued increasing as did violence against women. Still, there are many women who work and do all the housework. Full equality is the alternative that is being successfully winning on the above mentioned system. This system is totally different and for this reason it is also a revolutionary system. In this system, the members are going to work together for their common interests and happiness. We also criticise the liberal system because the member who has the more power will dominates, who eventually will be the man. This is so because there is no control on his power. Control and discipline are important to create a society of full equality. A physically strong person should never take unnecessary advantage of his strength. This argument opposes liberals and modernists who are in favour the freedom of the person rather than freedom for all. Another type of 'tyranny' is that of the home symbolised in the images of the 'Happy housewife.' It is most interesting to know that authoritarian system as those of Stalin, Hitler and Mussolini glorified the family and declared war on any deviations from the norm as homosexuality. In fact 100,000 homosexuals were killed in Holocaust. Modern capitalism is not the biggest alley of the traditional family. Today sex and love have become market products. Adding to all this, in countries like the United States, sex commercialism coexists with the worst forms of fundamentalist Puritanism. The two types of oppression cause community isolation. Work Let us consider briefly the essence of work in full equality relationship. In a traditional relationship a person works above all to keep himself and his family clothed and well fed, that is, so that he would be able to cover his essential needs. It will be a holiday for him every time he takes time off his work. The female must per necessity forget her ambitions and her qualities and also her freedom so that she would be able to slave away at the house work. The male is feeling threatened because he might lose his job, but, in the meantime he is also damning it because of his need to relax. People's attitude has already begun changing after the great impact of liberal feminism, which talks about the advance of women. Universal education helps every person to choose his/ her vocation. Therefore, a couple will work not because they are feeling threatened by fame, but because they realize that the enlargement of their needs depend on the creative work of the couple. The work that they are doing is the one that they had chosen for themselves and therefore it should be of interest to them. Freedom Freedom goes hand in hand with equality, that is only people who are free can be equal, and also people who feel they are equal can be free. High standards in education and culture help people to extend their ability away from their main occupation. These people were capable to develop and use new abilities in themselves. In other words a female in a feminist relationship would have developed in harmony, she would be cultured, having a high moral standard etc. This argument applies for the males. The feminist relationship is the one having the highest amount of freedom. The female can express and show her creativity, that is, she can dress according to her own creative choices and not obey the dictates of her partner. The feminist relationship is also the most efficient one. Above all, it should be stressed that it is rational to use the resources a female has to offer. Many females have great abilities in managerial and industrial section and also in technical work. A girl who marries so that she would become a housewife is oppressing her capabilities and this leads to the fact that the family cannot improve in this aspect. Security It is a common fact that the wife has to go out to work because the husband's income only is not enough to cope with the demand of life. It could happen, though rarely, that one of the partners would not be able to go on working. If this case has to happen in a traditional family, this means a disaster. The division of work makes the partners do a particular job and this creates incompetence between them. It is also worth mentioning, that when the female gives birth to a child this causes a great exchange of hormones between the mother and child. The mother can lose a lot of hair and her figure will surely change. The mother would have to stay awake for a long time to be able to care for her child, apart from doing the necessary housework. She will be under stress trying to buy all the necessities for her child. The absurd thing is that she must share these thoughts with other females. Many times, the woman does not take care of herself, instead dedicating all of herself to her family. In a relationship where total equality reigns, the family has only half of the stress. She can share her thoughts and feelings with the man she loves, because they have common interests. In this relationship the female not only has the time to take care of herself, but she has the means and freedom to care about herself. The fact just mentioned above, will never make the relationship out of time. Peace Many times, in the traditional relationship, the couple works so that they would be able to thave a home and property. They sacrifice their life for the work they are doing, instead of working for their fulfilment in the work they are doing. They do this so that the girl could become a housewife and she tries to be happy . While the couples are engaged to each other they live a threatened life and they have a great fright every time the end of the month comes and the female had not as yet had her period. This fear will cause an instability in the couple and also in society. Other couples, who are more passive, fall in great apathy, while waiting eagerly for the day of their wedding; against their morality. Where there exists full equality, the relationship becomes more dynamic. The couple will continue discovering themselves and each other in a systematic process, and they will not have to go through the means for their ideals (e.g. making sex as to be able to make love, spending money as a means to find happiness). The materialist dialect bases itself on practice together with continued changes. From studies made by British Social Attitudes Research and One Plus One, these statistics were found: a) The greatest amount of divorces in England happen five to nine years after marriage b) of the pleas for divorce where registered for from women, that is only 28% where men. c) It is easier for a couple who had married at a young age to ask for divorce. One can also notice that the majority of the females that ask for a divorce were abused or violated by their husbands. One understands that for a woman to ask for a divorce, the violence done on her must be considerable. To the contrary, a high percentage amongst those twenty-eight for cent of the males who ask for a divorce, do so, because of those problems that we associate with men themselves. We can say that when the female goes out to work and she let's the housework go, it may also be her fault. In this patriarchal view, there will exist a conflict which will disturb the couple's piece. Happiness Perhaps there are not any two persons in the whole world who have the exact idea about happiness. One person could understand that happiness is the opportunity to dedicate oneself to these vocations without having to lose time on little everyday things while for another he could not be happy without public activities. Others would like to obtain high material standards, good food and charming clothes. Many are those who mention sports and love escapades. A relationship of total equality is a combination of these different ideas about happiness. Women are ready to work both outside and inside the home. Many males are also realising this. Usually the males are the ones that are afraid of total equality, especially the more violent or aggressive males. The female does not remain emotionally dependent on the male. It is absurd for a woman to be attracted to a violent man, who will eventually make her life hell after they are married. Feminism is the only movement that represents all men and women together.
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